You’re getting really serious with this guy you’ve been seeing for a while. You two are spending more and more time together and it looks as though he may be the one who didn’t get away. When you know that in the interim, you are an exclusive couple, there are a few things to address.
1. Develop an effective way to communicate – This is a necessary tool to avoid those times when a simple disagreement turns into yelling and screaming. One tool that a couple can use in communication is to decide when using an “exit” route is necessary. When a normal discussion has voices raised, deploy the exit strategy until you’ve had a chance to cool off.
2. Make the most of time together – I know it sounds like a cliche, but time really is precious. Some of our loved ones who have passed away don’t have the options to enjoy life. It is so important for couples who love each other to appreciate the gift of time. Schedule movie nights at home. Make and keep date nights. Take turns with activities that you both enjoy. Monday nights, enjoy football. Friday nights, do something she likes. Compromise.
3. Keep your business at home – There will be difficult times when you choose to peacefully co-exist with another human being. Given that fact, it’s likely that you’ll want to confide in someone when unsure situations arise. Have one trusted friend that you can vent to. Get it off your chest and leave it there. Avoid making it a habit to let several friends, family members, co-workers, etc., know intimate details about your relationship. Remember, once you tell someone about your business, you’ve made it THEIR business.
4. Establish boundaries – It sounds elementary, but it’s a tool that’s necessary for couples who choose to be exclusive. Boundaries aren’t always inherently set. When that happens, people tend to (knowingly or unknowingly) draw the line as far as it will go. Make the time to talk about what you want in a mate and what makes your skin crawl. Decide if you can both live with those things and move forward, knowing that there are no gray areas.
5. Purposefully enjoy life – Put money aside for vacations. Do whatever you have to do to enjoy your life. Realizing that financial times are challenging right now, I’ll keep it simple. Enjoying life with the person you love adds to your quality of life. Daily life with working, family, health and other consistent things, it’s easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle. Just as you set goals for success, do the same with regard to your most intimate relationship. Enjoy, it’s important.