So what am I doing wrong? I met this man, we went out to eat LOL, and we had fun. He even gave me a kiss on the check when he dropped me off. I like him a lot! That same night I met him for the first time he texted me and ask me if I wanted to get a room! I got so mad so I started to play with his head. We had a few words but then I told him I was sorry and he told me he was sorry too. I have a 19 year old son living with me so when I was playing with his head I told him my son was going away for a week but it was not the truth, I was mad and upset with this man asking me to go get a room on our first date. Why do men have to move so fast? He even asked me if I could send him a picture of me in a bathing suit and that upset me even more. I feel he only wants a fit woman. Because he is very fit, and he works out a lot. Well he texted me and ask me if I wanted to go watch a movie, I agreed but then he texted me again saying he would like to come over my place for pizza knowing my son would not be there LOL but then I told him the truth, my son was home. Now he doesn’t text me anymore. I think he is just trying to get something from me so why can’t I find love? I am so lonely.
-Ruth Y from Chicago-
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I feel for you, but here is the thing, texting is not a language of love. Texting takes any and all feelings out of a conversation; communication in this manner is blind communication. You cannot feel the conversation or the person you are talking too… It gives no room for inflection, without inflection you really do not know what the other persons emotions are thus you do not know if he is kidding, serious or just plain crazy and vise versa.
Next, if you feel you need to mess with someone’s head in the beginning phases of the relationship then it’s time to find someone else, no matter what brought on those feelings. It’s not fair to you or the man you want to experience… Period!
Now as far as men thinking about sex immediately, please refer to my most recent letter, “Are all men pigs? II” I really went into to this and it should give you the insight you are looking for.
Here is my advice Ruth, keep it real! BE HONEST and COMMUNICATE CLEARLY with the man you want to be with. Do this in actual dialogue not on the phone via texts.
Ruth my Lady, the only way you will find true love is by using all of your faculties, you need to allow the beautiful gift of intuition you were blessed with to come through, so you can truly understand the man you are with. Do this and I assure you the relationships you begin, will do nothing but grow and become open to the Love that you seek.
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Michael Schuessler, author of the sex and sensuality classic, ‘The Holy G-rail’, Please visit his web site, www.theholyg-rail.com to see all the different forms of Michaels works of creativity.
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