Single folks are used to being someone else’s “plus one” on party invitations, but for any singular who laments their lackluster social calendar, throwing their own “Plus One” party is a great way to celebrate this single stage in life.
Hey, a party is a party, and singles can benefit from socializing, career networking, and introductions to new friends and neighbors. Despite the negative connotation of singles parties being all about hookups, any natural attractions that occur within social settings are actually how folks used to meet people. Then, the Internet started making us believe that we should pay fees, stay indoors and look at a computer screen to test our chemistry with virtual images and questionable profile representations. Harrumpf. Socialize!
If you don’t know where to go to meet new singles, host your own party with a few resourceful single friends. Here are suggested elements of a Plus One event, be it in your own backyard or at a Happy Hour location of your choice. Guests may not recognize all of your nods to singledom, but if you’re a games person, provide a prize for the guest who notices the most single-centric elements. If they team up with others, or make conversation about your subtle solo tricks, all the better.
+ The postive sign, or “plus” in the saying “plus one” is an important element of your party plans. Your invitations should be sent to happy singles seeking an enjoyable evening, prepared to share their positive personal stories. A warning about using evite: it’s convenient, yes, but it also forecasts to others your ongoing head count, the balance between male and female, seeing other people’s excuses, etc., and actually turns away some on-the-fence folks. Use your phone or stamps, and control your own RSVP.
+ Each guest is required to bring at least one other single friend, and the more the merrier. In this case, being someone’s “plus three” is a good thing.
+ Copies of Singular magazine make excellent party favors or discussion items. (Available online at SingularCity.com.) This magazine is the best resource for singles entertainment, style, food, travel, home life, humor, you name it. Guests can talk about the cover stories, or envision themselves in the glossy pages celebrating single life.
+ Provide single shots, or tickets for one round at the bar, following the theme of “one”ness.
+ Make a door prize lottery comprised of single dollar bills from each guest. Technically, gambling. Allegedly, a charitable donation to someone in the crowd.
+ Food: single servings of everything, of course! Bring on the sliders, cupcakes, skewers, or fondue.
+ Blue first-place ribbons, or foam #1 fingers are kitschy decorations or gag gifts.
+ For music, a DJ – because they work alone. ‘Nuff said.
+ Although plastic cups are an unappetizing beverage container, Solo cup brand is popular.
+ If you want to really run with the singled-out theme, have a spotlight. And use it.
+ Single parties are not all about hooking up. Nor are they about lighting up, or throwing up. But a good host needs to be prepared to deal with any of these occurences. That’s a general party tip, not a singles thing. Being someone’s designated driver is a very positive example of being “the chosen one”.
+ Expect flakes. Singles can be fickle about mingling parties. They’ve been through enough setups, snooze fests, and pressure situations that attending your party needs to promise a large, fun gathering, or they won’t want to enter. Singles also have hectic lives with overtime or a second job, and taking care of #1 on the eve of your party may mean they’d rather bow out. So, remind each guest to go forth and multiply (in a non-biblical way) then RSVP ASAP.
Truly, a singles party can be a simple get-together with your single friends at a park or a patio of your choice, with some food or drink, candlelight and good conversation. But if you can get a public venue with a party room or a private patio available to you, all the better. Because you know there will always be some singles who don’t like going alone to a stranger’s house, or they feel uncomfortable with mingling as the only entertainment for the evening. At the party, give them something to talk about, and the next day, your Plus One bash will be what everyone is talking about.
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