Several years ago, before becoming a writer I responded to an ad in the paper to work as a matchmaker at a well-known dating agency. I was only there a short time but learned a lot in those few months and even managed to be responsible for several successful matches and at least two that I know of, which resulted in marriage. Not bad for less than three months on the job!
The unique perspective I gained from working there really made me understand why it is that dating services work for some and not for others. So, for those of you considering signing up with a Toronto dating service such as LifeMates, The Allied Network or any of the others, I thought I would share with you a few tips on how to get the most of your membership. These tips are based on stuff I learned from the members who actually found love and those that I believe will be single forever. (Mean but true!)
Be honest: You’re only wasting your money and chances of finding someone great for YOU by pretending to be someone you’re not. Be completely honest when filling out questionnaires or answering your consultants questions because the info on your profile is all they have to go on when choosing the people you’ll be matched with since you won’t always have the same matchmaker handling your profile.
Keep an open mind: I can tell you from experience that the majority of my successful matches all took some coaxing. When the consultant calls you with a potential match (they get your approval first) be sure to hear them out and be willing to venture out of your comfort zone a little. There is usually a reason why the match has been chosen and for some reason they tend to be the ones that work best. You may have a “type” in mind that you prefer, but if that type hasn’t been working out then be willing to try something new. The person’s hair color or height doesn’t dictate a love connection. (FYI: I’m now happily engaged to someone who “wasn’t my type”!)
Be realistic about what dating services can do: The money you pay for dating services guarantees you dates with people whose profile fits what you’ve asked for. No money or service in the world can make someone fall in love with you. For instance; if you’re a 55 year old man who refuses to be matched with anyone over 25 then you need to be ready to have a limited amount of matches as most 25 year olds are not going to agree to being matched with someone that much older.
And finally, understand that dating services are not the same as mail-order bride agencies. (You’d be amazed by how many men make this mistake!)