Do you struggle when it comes to discipline with your twins, triplets, quads or higher order multiples? Do you feel like its you against them? You are not alone. The challenges of disciplining multiples is a common struggle of many parents of multiples. Discipline can be a particularly difficult process for families of multiples to experience. Here are some suggestions for keeping the peace and your sanity when you discipline your multiples.
It is very important to use appropriate discipline techniques according to the age of your child. You can’t use the same approach for a 1 year old that you would use on a 5 year old. It is important to remember that younger children are naturally curious and want or need to explore their surrounding in order to learn. It is also important to develop a discipline technique that is appropriate for your child’s individual personality. Every child, including those within a set of multiples, has their own personality and their own tolerance levels or response levels to various things. For example, with my set of twins, counting back-wards works wonders with one and a firm voice works well for the other. It is crucial to explore the different approaches with each of your children to understand better what will work for each child.
Try to establish a daily routine for your children as well. A daily routine will include a set place and time for meals, activities, bath time and bedtime. The more structured your routine is, the better behaved and controlled your children can be. Stick to your routine as much as possible. Once your routine is well established this will help your children know what to expect throughout their day and they will adapt to their environment and occasional changes more easily.
Proper discipline should teach your child good behavior and give them the ability to be competent, caring and in control of themselves and their actions. Use discipline as an opportunity to correct the bad behavior that your child is performing. When your child behaves appropriately make sure to compliment your child so you are enforcing the good behavior. Be specific in your compliments so that your child knows exactly what good behavior you are referring to and can better understand their success. Using praise will encourage and motivate your child to have good behavior that is acceptable.
Don’t forget that your children learn by observing the behaviors of you, your family members and others that they are regularly in contact with. Make sure that you are setting a good example for your children and behaving the way that you expect your children to behave. Lead by example. Be their role model.
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