After her interview with Barbara Walters, in the Stand By Your Man special that aired on Friday, Jenny Sanford sat with the women of the view on Monday. Ms. Sanford was there to promote her new book, Staying True, a memoir about her life as Governor Mark Sanford’s wife through his affair. More details about the book were revealed as Sherry Shepherd questioned what warning signs Ms. Sanford saw prior to and during the marriage.
As first mentioned in the Walters’ interview, Mr. Sanford requested the part of their vows addressing faithfulness be removed. He had concerns about his adherence to those words. Although Ms. Sanford appeared strong, her justifiable pain has been consistently etched across her face since stepping into the spotlight after Mr. Sanford’s affair became public.
In her book, she reveals incidences where Mr. Sanford’s love for her was less than apparent. When her grandfather passed away, he refused to attend the funeral with her. He gave her one half of a picture of a bike for her birthday, and the other half on Christmas or another birthday.
Then he later gave her a used bike that cost twenty-five dollars. He gave her a diamond necklace for her birthday, only to later take it back and return it. Some birthdays he didn’t remember. He refused to go to Lamaze classes with her during one of her pregnancies. And two weeks after one son was born, he left her to go climb mountains.
She explained the issue with removing the “being faithful only unto you,” portion of the vows. Ms. Sanford said she saw the marriage as a commitment to fidelity and directly asked Mr. Sanford if he viewed it the same way, if not they could walk away from the marriage. He said he understood, and she went forward with the marriage. Ms. Sanford had justifications for all of Mr. Sanford’s actions, except when he asked to go visit his mistress. She allowed him to go, but sent a chaperon with him.
The Sanford’s sons have been affected by the affair. Her nine year old had to endure a teacher questioning him about information he’d read about Mr. Sanford in the paper. The son, smartly said, “You don’t believe everything you read in newspapers do you?!”
Although she is moving on with the divorce, Ms. Sanford clearly still has great love for her husband. She is devoted to raising her sons in an amicable co-parenting relationship. Ms. Sanford wrote the book mainly as catharsis and to help other women going through similar miseries when their husband cheats. (Check the dates and locations of Ms. Sanford’s booksigning on her website here.)
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