Year after year, those who desire to grow and succeed in their lives, in their relationships and in their careers, are those who are serious about changing vital areas of their lives – character, behavior, and how they deal with and process their emotions (EQ). People who make New Year’s or new life resolutions that last and really make a difference, are those who focus on core resolutions that have the most impact in their lives and affect multiple areas of their lives, bringing the greatest return on investment of time and effort. These types of resolutions are relevant to real life and to the purpose and goals that individuals have in their lives.
The second aspect of resolution relevancy focuses on living the “examined life”. Socrates taught that the unexamined life is not worth living. When people allow their lives to be filled with business and noise, they have no time to really examine their lives and make accurate assessment of their lives, relationships and careers. Until people clearly see who they are and how they are living, they will never fully realize the need for change or understand what actually needs to be changed in their lives, families, careers and businesses. A large percentage of the population unconsciously works hard at avoiding the examined life, because it can be painful and humbling. For those who are willing to schedule quiet times of reflection into their schedules, and are courageous enough to face the realities in their lives, there is real hope for making resolutions that make a difference and last a lifetime.
When we fail to spend time in evaluating and learning from our life experiences, history tends to repeat itself … over and over and over again. So, take out a pen and journal, and take some time to list and review the history that YOU have written through your life in 2009 – ALL of it, the good, the bad and the ugly:
– Accomplishments – Failures
– Relationships Developed – Relationships Broken
– People you helped – People you hurt
– All that you earned or gained – All that you lost
– Things you built or created – Major lessons learned
Now, list all the major highlights and low-points, failures and accomplishments of 2009 in the following specific areas:
– FAMILY LIFE – CAREER / WORK – EDUCATION
– SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT – PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT
– EMOTIONAL HEALTH – FRIENDSHIPS AND OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
* Now that you have taken the time to RECORD IT
* Read through your lists to REVIEW IT
* Be in touch with your emotions and allow yourself to feel what you feel about each piece of life history that you have written in 2009 … and REJOICE IN IT OR REGRET IT
* Think about each piece of history and write next to it how you would like to REVISE IT (If that is or could be possible)
* Take time to REFLECT on all that you just REALIZED
Now make some decisions – how would you like to live differently in 2010 so that you can do a better job of writing history this year and the rest of your life.