Women who choose badboys over nice guys prefer flash over substance.
“He’s corny.” “I can’t date someone who is boring!”
“He’s just too nice.” “I need a guy who is a little rough around the edges”
“I can’t be with a guy like him, I’d run all over him.”
I need someone with swagger
Ahh, Ladies, we just can’t be satisfied can we? Many of us complain about what the guy in our life is not doing. He won’t express his feelings. You cannot depend on him to be there when you need him. He asks for a lot, but gives too little. And speaking about commitment is like speaking a foreign language. Or he commits to you and everyone else.
Could it be that the thrill of being with a bad-boy brings with it certain consequences? Bad-boys are fun, exciting, sexy. They stimulate all of the five senses. Like a drug that gives you the most exotic of highs, they take you there. But only for a moment. Then comes the downside. You can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t breathe because he has messed up AGAIN. Your emotions are all over the place. He pushes every button you have, you find yourself dazed and confused.
Oh, but you need that in your life. You couldn’t possibly deal with the humdrum life of being treated with respect, admiration, and love, now could you? What joy could there possibly be in a man who is faithful, honest and true? Why have a man take care of your needs and help nurture an environment for a stable, healthy, and fruitful relationship?
Honestly, like a drug addict, you chase after dysfunctional relationships because you feel unworthy of living a good life. It is time to buckle down. Heal your dysfunction, and allow a good man to enter your life. A good man may be hard to find, only because you have not looked for one yet.
Words of wisdom from a nice guy
J. Wilkinson-Greenville, S.C.:
Being a nice guy will almost always get you overlooked because we aren’t challenges. Nice guys tend not to make things difficult for women and is almost always willing to compromise on most issues. Nice guys always try to find a way to be available at any time for a girl because he wants a girl to know that she can depend on him at any time.
They also go above and beyond to let a girl know how he feels and that’s what gets nice guys in trouble. Nice guys avoid arguments because they are almost always unnecessary. Nice guys are better communicators and they tend to open up more and open up quicker than guys who aren’t. Nice guys let their actions and intangibles do the talking. Almost all nice guys are not thugs nor do they want to be. They do not try to fit in a certain stereotype of guy just to get a girl.
I am a nice guy and that’s how I was raised. I don’t want to be any other way. So if it means I’ll finish last, so be it.
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