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When a guy gives you the key to his apartment, you can bet he feels like you are now as common as the pizza box that sits in the living room for 5 days after the weekend football get together. You can now come and go as you please; enter without risk.
So, what is it you are really able to open?
As relationships evolve they take on new personalities and themes; the entire world is our stage. There is constantly an opening night and sometimes without warning there is an early curtain call. We go from a comedic story to a dramatic ending with some mysterious segments in-between. The characters we portray are part of our internal make-up of past relationships and familial conditioning.
What role are you playing now?
Moving to the next level of comfort and openness brings high anxiety as we don’t want to do anything to jeopardize our new status. We bring in our previous experiences of failures into our awareness to shield us from the probabilities of history repeating itself. One must learn from the past but not be limited by it. Recognizing the patterns we weave is our ability to take responsibility for our part of the relationship. We are only able to control one half of the relationship and that half is ours. We cannot be the director of another’s emotions, expectations, or decisions; we are just co-playwrights to each scene. The writers collaborate with their individual intent and purpose by creating witty dialogs and sensuous endings. They keep the characters wanting more, tempted by lust and the possibility of real love.
Taking this step of co-habitating can bring about longer intermissions than previously expected. There is an invisible line that is created when two people start to share their lives. Some do not even know or understand this barrier which can affect the friendship and intimacy quality of the relationship. These boundaries are something that needs to be expressed and understood before moving in to your new surroundings. Just because you have dated awhile does not mean you will truly recognize the other’s spatial definitions. When do they want to be alone, are they used to just reading the paper in the morning drinking coffee and not talking? Can you be at peace with no interaction at home, sometimes, and not take their actions personally? Can you resist being center stage and realize that you may just have to exit stage left occasionally.
So, really the only role you can play, the one you are born into, the one that knows your past, your dreams, and your insecurities is yourself. It is like being cast in the role of the lead but still having a close understudy – if you get stuck, sick, or forget your lines the understudy is ready to jump in.
The understudy is made up of our core value system, moral motivation and authentic self. The understudy is always there but you don’t necessarily call upon it to help you because you want to try and solve things first on the surface. We scrape from the surface our closest response to situations and circumstances without really digging deep to discover the possibility of other outcomes. There is a need sometimes to stop your first move and reconsider your position as knowing what you should say or do. Give into the moment of uncertainty and listen to the intuition that speaks from something greater than your awareness and watch what happens. The unfoldment of new plot twists and richer character development will have you being nominated for a Tony; you will surprise and delight your audience.
Upcoming show at The Dairy:
Happiness Is (Buy Now)
Performance Space | Feb 25, 7:30 pm | $6 GA
Happiness Is…a cinematic road trip that explores the myths and the truths of the “pursuit of happiness” in America. It is the second film from Andrew Shapter, director of the critically acclaimed documentary, Before The Music Dies. The film journeys through history, without boundaries or prejudices, in an attempt to understand what Happiness truly is. Q & A session follows the screening.
This special screening of HAPPINESS IS benefits the Colorado Coalition to End Hunger