Sibling relationships can definitely be challenging and at times overwhelmingly frustrating but the bond we have with our siblings is one that we never quite escape and over time one we realize that we really don’t ever want to. Like every relationship, siblings go through phases of like, dislike, pure hatred and love.
You learn that you are going to be a big brother or sister and man, you are excited! You have someone new to play with and boss around. There is a little one who is to be your insta-best friend and will do exactly what you say, until they can talk that is and quickly the shine fades and admiration turns to…
Why are they always following you around? Stealing your clothes? Tackling you, embarrassing you, getting you into trouble? Life would be so much easier if they could just stay on the other side of your closed door. How many times do you have to tell them that you’re not the boss of me? This is too much…
You swear to your parents that you will never be friends. Ever! You don’t see eye to eye. You say things you shouldn’t. And there are times when passive-aggressiveness takes over and that simmering silence is just waiting to boil over to outbursts of rage. You wonder how you survived this long with this person as your sibling but then you learn…
You grow up. And you learn that not everyone can be the boss all the time. There’s give and take. You put a whole lot of personalities in one family and there’s sure to be a heated argument or two. But the things that make it seem unbearable at times are really the things that make a family dynamic so great. There needs to be conflict and emotion and working through problems. Because when you get to the other side of the craziness that siblings can cause you start to understand…
You get to a point when you learn to ease up on trying to be large and in charge all the time and you actually start to turn to each other for help in other relationships in your lives. You understand that you will never all be the same, think the same, or want the same things out of life, but you learn to accept the fact that’s what makes a sibling bond so strong. So necessary.
Be thankful for your sibs, because like it or not they’re not going anywhere. And really do you want them to? If you give it a chance, they will help teach you to take on the world and then have your back should you stumble.
Should you not have any siblings, check out Big Brothers Big Sisters of Kansas City and make a difference in the life of a child and show them some brotherly/sisterly love.
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