While riding the emotional rollercoaster in the wake of your marital end, it’s entirely likely that you have or will receive numerous recommendations of psychotherapy as a means to help you manage the turmoil. These recommendations may or may not include the use of some sort of anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medications. And it’s likely that you have or will resist such things. Most people do. Why? There seems to be a general stigma associated with the need for help in managing your emotional wellbeing. Some consider it weak. Others say, “I’m not crazy!” Add to this the idea of medications that are intended to impact your emotions and it’s not at all surprising, the reaction to these suggestions. These responses however aren’t truly accurate and are not representative of the reality of psychotherapy.
Please consider the many areas of your life where you have had to hire a subject matter professional. You need legal help, so you hire an attorney. A pipe bursts in your house so you hire a plumber. The car broke down so you hire a mechanic. If you were diabetic you’d take your meds right? Why then, if you need emotional help would you not hire a professional in that field? It’s really no different. At the end of the day it’s quite simple, if you need help with something you seek out those who are qualified to provide the highest and best help. The take-away message here is that therapy is sometimes needed. You’d be cheating yourself if you ignore that need.
In spite of the associated stigma, psychotherapy can be a beneficial thing. But you must give weight to two caveats; first, you must find a therapist that is the right fit for you. That person must be the right kind of human being based only on YOUR own standards. If you aren’t comfortable, find another one. Trust me, they know that each person is different and they won’t be insulted if you declare them “not right” for you. Secondly, be an enthusiastic and willing participant in your own therapy. These professionals are not a magic bullet. They are there to help YOU figure it out for yourself. Without your active involvement and honest desire, it’ll never help and will only amount to a huge waste of time and money.
Seeking out these professionals isn’t that difficult either. If you have medical insurance, most providers have listings of healthcare professionals in their network who specialize in one discipline or another. Alternatively, you can do some simple google searches for therapy in your area. Following are three links that were found doing just that. Please note, this is not an endorsement for these places. It’s simply presented here as evidence of how a simple search can produce results in just a couple of minutes.
- Life Pathways
- Rebuilding Therapy Centers
- Counseling and care for wellness
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