February 14th – the national day of love. It’s a day that’s devoted to romance, chocolates, rose petals and wine …if you’re a couple, that is. But what if you’re not part of a couple? Are we as women destined to spend the day with a scarlet “S” on our chest declaring to the world we’re single?
Believe it or not, there are several things you can do to make it a success. Who says you have to go it alone just because you’re not in a relationship? I’ve never been one to fit within the status quo and frankly, if I can help it, you won’t either this Valentine’s Day. Here are a few suggestions to not only make it through the day, but make it quite memorable as well.
- Plan ahead. Don’t wait until the last minute to see who’s doing what. Make plans now.
- Organize a lingerie party
- Plan a spa day with friends
- Have a Girls’ Night In – make it a theme night (favorite high school years, favorite celebs, favorite fashions, etc)
- Have a Girls’ Night Out – head to downtown Houston for a concert or off-Broadway play or stay local and try Country and Western line dancing
- Spend it with your best guy friend – some of my favorite times have been with one of my close guy friends
- Enjoy time with your family
However, it is important to understand that what you don’t do is just as important as what you do. Here are a few things to NOT do:
- Don’t be alone. Don’t even think about it. Why waste a perfectly good day???
- Don’t allow yourself to get depressed. There will literally be millions of other men and women going it alone on Valentine’s Day. And others who wish they were…
- Don’t watch romantic movies. Really now, what will that accomplish?
- Stay away from most restaurants. Many restaurants will be gearing up for the occasion and will be catering to couples. Just say no to restaurants.
- Don’t call your ex! If you think you’ll need some intervention, have a few good friends handy. Friends don’t let friends call ex’s on Valentine’s Day.
Think about it, in the grander scheme of things, how important will this day be? Don’t let the greeting card companies and the media make you feel like a loser because you aren’t one-half of a couple. It happens. It has no bearing on who you are or how great you are.
Not being in a relationship on Valentine’s Day is o-k-a-y. It isn’t a pandemic or a life-threatening disease so there’s no reason to quarantine ourselves from the rest of the word.
On Valentine’s night, I propose women everywhere raise a glass to their single sisters and smile – knowing once again, we have overcome the norm as we pave the way for others to follow.