There is a reason – either intrinsic or extrinsic – for everything you do – or don’t do – you get something out of it that motivates you to continue the behavior. Even if your behavior has a negative consequence you are getting something – it may be nothing more than attention or sympathy for your predicament.
Behavior is the result of your belief systems which influences your “mental models” – your mindset. Your belief system is a culmination of your experiences, lessons learned, and fears. You act in accordance with these beliefs.
“It’s all about beliefs”, published in the Wall Street Journal reviewed on smallbusinessbrief.com points to how mindset can influence success.
It terms of weight loss management, your belief system may have contributed to an unhealthy weight. It may include beliefs based on what you were told or learned growing up such as: eat everything put on your plate –“The Clean Plate Club”; don’t waste food – “There are children in Africa starving.”; or “Finish all of your food and you can have desert” – a food reward for eating more than you wanted to in the first place.
Your belief system also drives your perception of what you feel you can accomplish. If you belief that permanent weight loss is not possible, chances are you will be right. Your actions are going to reflect that belief – you will be less likely to “commit energy or resources” to accomplishing the weight management goal.
If things do not go as planned, your mindset will determine the next course of action. You can either focus on the situation as some sort of failure and resist it or, you can accept it as a minor setback, take the lessons learned and just move forward.
Focusing on what you cannot do, is a missed opportunity to discover what is possible. Focus too much on the negative – what failed, what you cannot do, what is not working, or perceived shortcomings – you risk developing a pattern of negative self talk. Negative self talk, supports your belief that you cannot succeed at similar tasks in the future – and you may simply give up trying.
If your mindset is focused on the positive – your strengths, abilities (what you can do, and what you are good at) – you will eventually end up in a better place or keep trying until you do.
For additional information: Sources: Positive Psychology News Daily, CongnitiveBehavior.com, Pearson Prentice Hill, View the embedded inspirational YouTube video below, for an illustration on the possibilities from focusing on the positive.