With Valentines Day just around the corner, a proposal (or two) will be made. One of the most popular times of the year to propose is Valentines Day. He gets down on bended knee, and asks you to marry him. Men through history have been known to propose marriage in some outlandish and creative ways. But in the end, the act of proposing is not as significant as the question, and of the results. So while your heart may be pounding, and you can hear your resounding “yes” bouncing through-out neighborhoods, you take a deep breath, and realize, you have a wedding to plan.
Maybe as a child you had your dream wedding planned out in your head, and by now, you have let go of the idea of the pink ponies, whisking you away. You are an adult now, and the reality of planning a wedding seems intimidating. Before you start to have a coronary, talk to your husband to be, about what type of ceremony he wants. It is important that both are on the same page. Do you want a large family wedding in a reception hall with lots of friends? Do you want a small intimate ceremony with just immediate family at home? There are different types of weddings for different types of people. You need to decide what is right for you and your partner.
Here is a quick time-line of what you need to do, assuming you are having a 12 month engagement:
12-9 months before:
1. Start a wedding folder or binder (gathering pages from magazines of cakes, dress, etc..)
Work out your budget. How much to you have to spend, determine how much family is kicking in?
2. Build your wedding party (people will start asking you)
3. Settle on a head count. Construct a guest list, with address, and information you need for each guest.
4. Hire a wedding planner (if you are choosing to do so)
5. Book your date and venue.
6. Book your officiant.
7. Research florists, photographers, and other vendors.
8. Keep your vendors info in your binder.
9. Throw an engagement party
6-8 months before:
- Book the Photographer
- Book the entertainments. Check out local bands, go on a “date night” to check out a DJ or band.
- Start meeting with caterers, if your location doesn’t provide their own.
- Purchase your dress.
- Book rooms at a hotel for out of town guests.
- Register your gifts.
- Launch a wedding web-site.
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Don’t forget, the Hartford Bridal Expo is Sunday, Feb. 14th.